Well I am sure a lot of you moms dealing with these issues have this by your side, but someone sent this to me and of course I cried! I think I really cried because someone would think of me so nicely because there are days I don't feel very nice, and feel guilty for that.
"The Special Mother
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by socialpressures and a couple by habit.This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Didyou ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments forpropagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs hisangels to make notes in a giant ledger."Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron saint, Matthew. Forrest, Marjorie, daughter,patron saint, Cecilia""Rutledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used toprofanity"Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child." The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy." "Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.""But has she patience?" asks the angel."I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it." "I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make him live in her world and that's not going to be easy.""But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word'. She will never consider a 'step' ordinary.When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and know it!" When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty,prejudice...and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.""And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air. God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."